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How to Make a Friend Feel Better After a Death
Death can be an incredibly difficult time, not only for a family member but for anyone close to the deceased. It can be especially hard for a friend of the deceased. When a friend experiences a loss, it is important to be there for them and provide comfort.
Steps to Help Your Friend
Here are a few steps to help your friend:
- Reach out as soon as possible. Don’t wait for your friend to come to you, they might not be in a place to do so. Let them know that you’re there for them by calling, texting, or visiting.
- Be patient and present. Let them take the lead on what they need. Listen to their stories and memories. They all matter and will help the healing process.
- Honor the deceased. Find out if your friend wants to create a meaningful tribute, such as a photo collage or writing a special letter. It can give your friend a much-needed connection to closure.
- Take time for self-care. While helping your friend, be sure to take moments to recharge and practice self-care. Do things for yourself that make you feel alive and whole.
Things to Avoid Saying
When comforting a friend, be conscious of what you say. There are some phrases that can seem helpful but, in reality, may make your friend feel worse. These include:
- “He/She is in a better place.”
- “I know how you feel.”
- “It was part of a bigger plan.”
- “You need to stay strong.”
- “Everything happens for a reason.”
Conclusion
Death is difficult, and there is no way to make the pain go away overnight. Be there for your friend and let them know that they are not alone.